Why is obsession good

As a matter of fact, I sincerely believe that, to reach to any point in life that is considered worthwhile , one must really be obsessed — or passionate…there are no other ways. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

I would say obsession is always not good to have it on your mind and drive you accordingly. You need to keep up with your mind and do the right thing before the devil conquers the other part. Louis Quote. I know what you mean about the obsession lark. I think the only other person in my family who understands me is my younger son. But I have to confess I must have a bit of an obsessive personality full stop.

My sister lent me a 1, piece jig-saw puzzle. Oh no — not me! I was only up until 3am and 4am several nights in a row obsessed with finishing it before I went on holiday. And I did, and I did every other job I had set myself to do before I went. But really LOL. That must verge on insanity! Hi James. I think obsession is usually considered bad because the news is full of people obsessed with negative things. Positive obsession is usually overshadowed by the success, which is all that other people usually see.

Of course, a lot of other people see success as a bad thing too. It makes them feel lazy. Live your life. Keep doing your own thing. Hi James, what an inspiring post mate, really. But in business or blogging I can most definitely see how obsession can lead to positive results. It was never my goal or obsession to start a family, but now that I have one, I think of myself blessed and could not be more thankful for the way things have turned out.

Interesting thoughts! The bottom line is that you know what you want and why is it truly your own goal, dream, desired result, etc. Obsession does more good to me than bad. It helps me focus and be more productive on my work. I guess it depends on how you channel your interests. Thanks for this post. Tejas Jasani Quote. Obsession is a very strong word with, what I believe to be, a negative undertone.

Maybe there are other words for it, maybe there are not; either way, continuing to strive towards something with a fire in your heart and absolute determination that this will work for you is an admirable trait in anybodies eyes, especially our own.

If we find that we are obsessed with a goal, may we obsess until we reach it. However, it may not be good to obsess over something that is not conducive to your dreams and goals. The line between these things is thin, be careful as you move forward! Patrick Quote. When you are obsessed with something you tend to become more successful in it because you spend more things on doing what you love doing. If obsession should be positive i dont think its bad but can be worked upon when its becoming too much whether positive or negative because an adage said that too much of everything is bad.

This post its really inspiring and educative…thanks for making me understand more what obsession is all about not only on negative side but also on a positive side…Thanks alot for this.

Giotechub Quote. Hi James, very valuable opinion about obsession. I think this obsession sometimes lead to good end results as we are living in the era where we can have a mind of doing something different. Amaira Quote. Hey, very interesting post! Those that are obsessed are driven. It is what is driving those that are obsessed that will determine whether or not obsession is good or bad. How emotional aware and intelligent one is, will go a long way to defining what one is obsessed to and how obsessed they become.

Jack Edward des Quote. Great article. I totally agreed with all your words. Aadarsh Quote. Hi James, in some ways, obsession is almost a super power — fueling the drive to get things even when passion or motivation is waning. In his book " The Psychology of Passion: A Dualistic Model ," psychologist Robert Vallerand says obsessive passion is more of a threat to a relationship than no passion at all. If someone is in love with you, they trust you. They want you to be the best version of yourself and only want good things for you.

That includes giving you space when you need it. On the other hand, someone who is obsessed with you will be jealous and possessive. They won't like the idea of you growing as a person, or having any independence, lest you meet someone else and leave them. Obsessively passionate people are insecure and so preoccupied with losing their partner they actually end up neglecting them. They are defensive, controlling, and resentful, so it's no surprise women in relationships with obsessively passionate men report being less sexually satisfied.

One way to tell if you — or your partner — are smitten or obsessed is by looking at what's appropriate for where you are on your timeline. The start of a good relationship is going to be exciting, and feeling butterflies is a normal, fun reaction to this.

But if months go by and you still find yourself distracted at work, or you ignore your friends, family, and hobbies for your partner, that's not a sign of a healthy match. Jonathan Marshall, a psychologist and relationship expert, told Business Insider that when people fall in love it's natural for everyone else to feel out of view for a while.

But if you start noticing your primary focus is this other person to the point you're becoming isolated from things that were previously important, it's typically a sign something isn't right.

Falling in love is a bit of a sickness because we go a bit insane, but if that insanity lasts for a long time, and you can't find your inner compass, then I think that's a sign it isn't in balance.

Butterflies, excitement, and daydreaming aren't red flags on their own. In fact, they are hints you're on the right path for something great.

But if you feel you are being controlled by your passion, rather than the other way around, things can easily spin out of control. Ultimately, if something is right, you'll feel it. Make sure they are easy things to accomplish. Don't let yourself get distracted. Obsession with improvement means that every day, without fail, you will relentlessly focus on finishing each of these process goals. They become your top priority. At the end of each week, look back at what you've accomplished every day.

If you're having trouble finishing your three personal and three professional process goals, break them down into easier or more modest tasks. The objective here is to feed your obsession with incremental success--not to get discouraged. The people I know who are at the top of their game got there not by wanting to be better, but by becoming obsessed with improving. Because we live in such a result-oriented society, it's easy to forget that the key to happiness lies not in the end goal, but in the efforts along the way toward achieving the goals we've set for ourselves.

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